I recently discovered an intriguing article in Psychology Today by Rebecca Webber entitled, Are You with the Right Mate?
A few of my favorite quotes from the article include:
- We’re all difficult. Everyone who is married is a difficult spouse. We emphasize that our spouse is difficult and forget we’re difficult for them.
- There comes a moment in all relationships when you lie in bed, roll over, look at the person next to you, and think it’s all a dreadful mistake. It’s not a sign that you’ve chosen the wrong partner. It is the signal to grow as an individual—to take responsibility for your own frustrations.
- In mature love, says Meinecke, author of the book Everybody Marries the Wrong Person, we do not look to our partner to provide our happiness, and we don’t blame them for our unhappiness. We take responsibility for the expectations that we carry, for our own negative emotional reactions, for our own insecurities, and for our own dark mood.
I find this next statement distinct and right on the mark.
- Marriage is not about finding the right person. It’s about becoming the right person.
I pray each day for marriages, with the hope they will stand firm through the difficulties and walk a different path—one that reinforces commitment even when circumstances are less than ideal.
Copyright © 2016 Sheri Mueller, Growthtrac Ministries
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Sheri Mueller
Sheri Mueller is an LCPC who earned her M.A. in Professional Counseling from Olivet Nazarene University. A certified facilitator and trainer for PREPARE/ENRICH, Sheri has worked for more than 15 years to help individuals, premarital couples, and married couples build and maintain healthy relationships. An Adjunct Professor at Judson University and author of numerous articles and a regular column, Mentor Minute, Sheri, with her husband, Jim, founded Growthtrac Ministries. Check-out Sheri's book, "I Want Him to Want Me: How to Respond When Your Husband Doesn’t Want Sex "
